Dear Pastor
I wrote you as quickly as I joined higher school. I am pleased to tell you that after I graduated from higher school, I went on to university and graduated from there, too. While I was at university, I carried on a secret partnership along with a young man that told me he had a girlfriend. We were fairly close, and sometimes we shared intimate minutes together. I watched danger blooming since somebody told his girlfriend concerning us, and she called me and threatened me.
My father is an elder in his church and she threatened to tell every person that his daughter was a whore. She additionally told me if I did not leave your man she was going to prevent supporting him. This guy and I met and we agreed to preserve in touch by calls only. We did not text each various other anymore.
NOT All set FOR SEX
One night he could not bear to be alone, so he called me and we agreed to comply with at his friend’s home. I did not go All set to have actually sex, yet we did. He told me to ensure to take the morning after pill, yet I didn’t. Now it appears as if I could be pregnant. I told your man and he cursed and called me a fool. That was the initial time he called me a fool. He has actually constantly said that I am smart; now suddenly I am a fool. And he is reminding me that he has actually his bona fide woman. I do not hope to have actually an abortion. My problem is I don’t understand exactly how to face my family. I am the just girl of four children. My mother has actually constantly said that my father spoiled me. As big as I am, whenever I go home, I sit in my father’s lap. He told me that I am permanently his little girl, yet now his little girl is pregnant.
WILLING TO LEAVE
This guy told me that he Will certainly leave his girlfriend if I am willing to advice your man until he is finished along with university. He said that he was thinking of leaving her prior to he accidentally got me pregnant. I don’t understand if I can easily believe him. I blame myself. I knew he was not a Christian, yet he is such a romantic guy.
Pastor, please advice me. My tummy is not showing as yet, yet I am wearing loose clothes. exactly how can easily I introduce this guy to my parents? I told your man that we ought to grab married quietly, yet he is not for that. We talked concerning abortion. He said that it is up to me. advice me, I am so embarrassed.
B.C.
Dear B.C.
Let me tell you straight up. Don’t marry this guy. Don’t make that mistake at all. You have actually currently earned a massive mistake by becoming sexually involved along with him. Don’t attempt to cover up exactly what happened by obtaining married to him. Don’t terminate the pregnancy either. exactly what is done is done. It is not tough for girls to grab involved along with guys after leaving house and attending institutions of learning, especially as quickly as these girls were sheltered at home. However, I am convinced that it is not the institution that one attends that can easily spoil you; it is having the wrong focus and the firm you keep.
So exactly what am I attempting to say? I am attempting to say that you ought to inform your parents that you are pregnant. They are going to be shocked. They might have actually sleepless nights, yet the news Will certainly not kill them. And yes, they are going to be embarrassed at church. yet the mature Christians Will certainly offer them the support that they Will certainly need. The members Will certainly additionally encourage you to be durable and not to offer up the Christian faith.
The young man that got you pregnant suggested that you ought to advice to support your man while he is in university. He sounds love a trickster to me. You ought to tell your man to continue to be along with his girlfriend and as quickly as he begins to work, you expect your man to advice to support his child. I repeat: Don’t marry him. It is never ever helpful for a couple to grab married since the woman got pregnant.
Why is it that this guy did not tell you that he and his girlfriend weren’t obtaining along and he was preparing to leave her? Don’t believe him. Allow your man deal along with his girlfriend. He Will certainly have actually to explain to her why he got you pregnant. I could hear your man say to her “I earned a mistake. I don’t love the girl. She pushed herself on me. I am sorry.” He could also say that you are a unsatisfactory girl and the kid that you are carrying is not his since he used a condom. So be prepared, she might call you and curse you and tell you to go locate the father of the child.
Pastor